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Self-Discovery in Relationships and Dating (Feat. Carly Ann)

One of the most requested topics I had been receiving lately was to talk more about self-discovery when it comes to relationships and dating. As I started seeing more of these requests, I immediately knew I had to invite this week's guest Carly Ann to help answer your questions and share her expertise on building self-love and confidence while navigating relationships and being single.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to stop yourself from feeling bad when "everyone around you" is getting engaged
How to navigate moments where you have trouble feeling content with being single
How to show yourself genuine love and appreciation after a life of doing the opposite
Carly's recommendation if you’re someone who is navigating being single when you're usually in relationships
How to tell someone you like them if you’ve been friends forever
Carly's self-discovery tips specifically for understanding yourself when pursuing relationships, and learning if having feelings for someone is actually making you happy or not
Carly's healing recommendations when recovering from old codependency traits, even while currently in a healthy relationship
The best piece of advice Carly has ever received about finding yourself when navigating dating and relationships
...and much more!
About Carly
Carly Ann is a Self-Esteem & Relationship Coach, Podcaster, and Recovering Anxious Dater who is passionate about helping other women reclaim their worth in life & love.
Determined to put an end to you feeling ‘too much’, ‘crazy’, or ‘needy’ by giving you the inside scoop on why love makes you feel that way and how you can break free from people who enhance your insecurities.
Whether it is through her Podcast (Lessons in Love), free workshops, or private coaching, Carly Ann helps you go from insecure, anxious, and losing yourself in love, to feeling complete by yourself, totally irreplaceable, and standing in your power as the leader of your love life.
Instagram: @iamcarlyann
Website: www.carly-ann.co.uk
Podcast: Lessons in Love
Mentioned in This Episode
Playing Big by Tara Mohr
Loveability by Robert Holden, Ph.D.
Ways To Work With Sara
Join the Self-Discovery Society Membership Community
Get the Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I’m Awesome. Here’s Why…
Your Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine.
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Self-Discovery Activity: Bring Back the Spark

When you start getting to know yourself better, there’s a big chance that some activities or relationships in your life may feel a bit out of alignment compared to how they used to make you feel. The more you learn about who you are and what you really want, the more you’ll want to shift various areas of your life to match the personal growth you’re experiencing internally. 
This month's self-discovery activity gives you tips on what to do when you start losing interest in the goals and hobbies that you originally had before diving into your self-discovery journey, and how to bring the passion and spark back into your life in a way that feels aligned and authentic to you!
This activity has been pulled from my upcoming book, Your Self-Discovery Journal, coming March 2022. Preorder your copy to explore even more self-discovery activities here!
Mentioned in This Episode
I'm Awesome. Here's Why...: 110 Lists, Activities, and Prompts to Remind You Why You're Amazing
Episode 29: What is the Self-Discovery Society?
Ways To Work With Sara
Join the Self-Discovery Society Membership Community
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I’m Awesome. Here’s Why…
Your Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine.

What is the Self-Discovery Society?

Big news! The membership program that we've all been waiting for has officially opened its doors to the public!
The Self-Discovery Society is my new online membership program created to help you find clarity, confidence and empowerment in order to start creating the life you want.
Depending on your membership plan, the Self-Discovery Society will provide you with ongoing support, an accepting like-minded community, and other amazing benefits.
Listen to the episode to learn more details, hear testimonials from current members, and plans for the future of the membership!
Join the Self-Discovery Society Here!
Mentioned in this episode:
6 Ways I Completely Changed My Life in One Year
Ways To Work With Sara
Join the Self-Discovery Society Membership Community
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I’m Awesome. Here’s Why…
Your Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine.

Q&A Series: How Can I be the Best Version of Myself?

Want to start diving into self-discovery and personal growth, but are confused about what it takes to truly become the best version of yourself?
What does the "best version" of yourself even look like?
Listen to this episode to learn the answers to these questions and more about the best way to work towards transforming into the best version of yourself.
Additional topics covered:
What the best version of yourself really means
Six tips for working towards becoming the best version of yourself
Why surrounding yourself with positive people will help you immensely along your journey
The difference between feeling uncomfortable due to negative feelings/reactions versus stepping outside of your comfort zone for growth
A bonus tip for being kind to yourself and where you are now in your journey
Mentioned in this episode:
Episode 20: How to Start Your Self-Discovery Journey
Episode 18: Self-Discovery Activity - Identify Your Values
Episode 23: The Power of Self-Compassion and Self-Love (Feat. Laura from @TheSelfSet)
Blog post: Why You Should Surround Yourself With Positive People
Want to ask a question that can be answered in a future episode? Send in your question here.
Ways To Work With Sara
Join the Self-Discovery Society Membership Community
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I’m Awesome. Here’s Why…
Your Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine.

How to Avoid Burnout with Effective Self-Care Routines (feat. Kelsie Bentley)

Self-care expert and mindset coach Kelsie from Simply Bentley joins me to talk about ways you can prevent yourself from experiencing burnout with effective and realistic self-care routines. 
What you'll learn in this episode:
Kelsie's experience before and after she established healthy self-care routines during her time as a hairstylist experiencing extreme burnout
How her view on self-care has changed over time
How Kelsie navigates particularly stressful times in her life
Signs of oncoming burnout to be aware of
Kelsie's suggestions for those who are just getting started building a self-care routine, or if you're on the verge of experiencing burnout
The best piece of advice she ever received about self-care
 
About Kelsie
Kelsie Bentley is a self-care and mindset coach who helps women with irregular schedules create sustainable routines to prevent burnout and promote better self-care. She got her start coaching women from behind the chair as a hairstylist and dove deep into the work of self-care after going through her own experience with burnout. 
Her written work can be found on sites such as Mama Minimalist, The Hive, and Morning Laziness, and she has been featured on several podcasts including Healing Unscripted and All Things Relax. 
When Kelsie isn’t helping people feel good inside and out, Kelsie enjoys reading personal development books, being a lazy gardener, and sharing meals with friends. Kelsie lives in Central Illinois with her husband, Brett, her black Lab, Clark, and her sassy calico cat, Lois.
Instagram: @simplybentley
YouTube: Simply Bentley
Facebook: Simply Bentley
Tiktok: simplybentley17
 
Ways To Work With Sara
Join the Self-Discovery Society Membership Community
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I’m Awesome. Here’s Why…
Your Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
 
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine.

Self-Discovery Activity: Reflect on Your Milestones

Are you feeling a bit stuck in your life, comparing your timeline to others', or feel like you haven’t accomplished what you “should” have by this point in your life? This activity is going to help you realize that you are doing such a great job, give you perspective on what you truly want, and understand that your own personal timeline is special and perfect for YOU.
This activity was pulled from my self-confidence guided journal, I'm Awesome. Here's Why..., and if you’d like to use the diagram created to help you through the process, you can purchase the book here.
If you have the book already, you can find the diagram and instructions for this activity on page NUMBER. This isn't required, but it can definitely help elevate the impact and make it fun!
When you’re done, share them with me! Either privately in my Instagram DMs or share them on your story and tag me @coachsarakatherine!
Requests for future activities? Send me a DM or submit requests on my website.
Previous Self-Discovery Activities:
Identify Your Values
Take Personality Tests
Ways To Work With Sara
Join the Self-Discovery Society
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I’m Awesome. Here’s Why…
Your Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine.

5 Important Signs That You Need to Start Self-Discovery

So you've heard about self-discovery, but you're not sure if it's something that you need to pursue right now. That's okay, you're in the right place! 
Whether you're working towards career goals, personal growth goals, building confidence, or something else, not working on your self-discovery journey can be critical towards helping you achieve what you want. This episode breaks down five extremely important signs that you need to start a self-discovery journey for yourself in order to help you achieve your personal goals.
 
Mentioned in This Episode:
Q&A Series: What's the Secret to Being Happy?
What is Self-Discovery? Why is it Important for Personal Growth?
5 Sneaky Signs You're a People-Pleaser
How to Start Your Self-Discovery Journey
 
Your Next Steps:
Download and fill out my free 3-Step Life Audit Workbook
Access the Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Join the Self-Discovery Society
 
Ways To Work With Sara
Join the Self-Discovery Society
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I’m Awesome. Here’s Why…
Your Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine.

Q&A Series: What‘s the Secret to Being Happy?

Looking at the title of this episode, you might be thinking, Sara, that’s almost too big of a question to answer. How can you possibly respond accurately for everyone?
Well first, you’re not wrong. It’s definitely a big question to answer! Second, I don’t think it’s impossible to answer in a way that nearly everyone can relate to in some day.
If you’ve been asking the big questions and seeking the answers to what it takes to live a happy life, then this episode is for you.
During this episode, you’ll also learn:
My recommended long-term life goal (it might surprise you!)
The definition of self-discovery, and why it’s important
A few signs that you’re not following a path that will lead you towards happiness
Details about my own experience when I thought I was doing the right things to be happy (spoiler alert: I wasn’t)
Referenced In This Episode:
Self-Discovery Activity: Identify Your Values
My People-Pleasing Recovery Story
6 Ways I Completely Changed my Life in One Year
Coming soon! The Self-Discovery Society: an exclusive membership community created to help you find clarity, passion and empowerment. Lock in a discounted rate and become a founding member here.
Want to ask a question that can be answered in a future episode? Send in your question here.
Ways To Work With Sara
Join the Self-Discovery Society
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I’m Awesome. Here’s Why…
Your Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine.

The Power of Self-Compassion and Self-Love (Feat. Laura from @TheSelfSet)

One of the most overlooked pieces to self-discovery and personal growth is self-compassion. Oftentimes you'll hear advice about confidence saying to simply, "Be more positive" or other generic blanket statements that ignore the true challenges and messiness that you can face when you work on strengthening your confidence muscle.
Laura decided to switch the narrative, and is determined to include self-compassion and giving yourself grace as you grow through your self-discovery and personal development journey. 
In this episode, you'll learn about:
How Laura defines self-compassion
How her view of self-love and compassion has changed over the years
Recommendations for how to navigate moments where you have trouble owning your voice
Tangible tools to help you if you're consistently hard on yourself
The best piece of advice Laura received about self-compassion
Laura's "comfort zone" challenge, and her experience doing one thing out of her comfort zone every day for an entire month
Details about Laura's Create Your Confidence Guided Journal, and her process behind self-publishing on Amazon
Laura is the creator behind The Self Set, where she shares strategies and insight on how to work through insecurities and be kinder to yourself. She self-published the Create Your Confidence Guided Journal as a workbook to help women work through insecurities and build more confidence over time.
Purchase Create Your Confidence Guided Journal
Follow Laura on Instagram @theselfset
Visit Laura's website at theselfset.com
 
Ways to Work With Sara
Put Yourself First - 1:1 Private Coaching
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I'm Awesome. Here's Why...
The Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine and visit her website at sarakatherine.com

Self-Discovery Activity: Take Personality Tests

A fun and easy way to kick-start your self-discovery journey is to take personality tests! Personality tests, like the two mentioned in this episode, are great ways to start understanding who you are, why you respond in certain circumstances, what motivates you, and also how to better understand other people in your life.
While there are numerous personality tests that can help you during your self-discovery journey, the two mentioned in this episode are my top two recommendations overall! They're thorough, easy to comprehend, and work hand-in-hand with each other to give you a well-rounded view to understanding yourself a little better.
 
Mentioned in This Episode:
16personalities.com
The Enneagram Institute (paid)
The Enneagram and You by Gina Gomez
Eclectic Energies (Free Enneagram Test) 
 
Ways to Work With Sara
Put Yourself First - 1:1 Private Coaching
Self-Discovery Starter Kit
Books:
I'm Awesome. Here's Why...
The Self-Discovery Journal
Be Happy. Be Calm. Be YOU
 
Connect with Sara on Instagram @coachsarakatherine and visit her website at sarakatherine.com